My daughter may have dyslexia. I started reading these books on dyslexia because I believe my oldest daughter has it. Right now, I am going to pursue getting additional services for her through the school.
For a moment, I hesitated on sharing this out of respect for my daughter (since it’s her business). And honestly, I’ve been sort of avoiding the topic altogether and hoping that maybe it will just go away. I also didn’t want to give her a “label” since I know labels can be damaging.
But after reading these books, I realized that there is so much shame around dyslexia. It’s heart-breaking what so many children and adults have been through in their experiences with dyslexia. My own sub-conscious shame may have been the reason I didn’t want to share it.
Shame feeds on silence and secrecy. It’s very destructive in the ways it can impact confidence, self-esteem, and worthiness.
Brene Brown (who is the leading expert on shame research) says that “Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging.”
Shame around dyslexia is not something I want my daughter to experience. So, I’m going to do everything I can to EMPOWER her and show her all of the GIFTS that she has.
The author of “The Dyslexia Empowerment Plan” explains that dyslexia is actually a characteristic just like your eye color, height and hair color. It’s a difference in the way the brain processes information.
Given that our society values “text print” as a primary way to communicate, dyslexia does create challenges for those that have it. However, it is not a measure of intelligence. And, after reading this book, I don’t consider it a “disability”. It’s just a difference in the brain and it means that there are other amazing STRENGTHS associated with it.
I learned in the book that while dyslexia affects 10-15% of the population, 35% of entrepreneurs have dyslexia. Some believe it is due to the resiliency that these individuals had to develop to get through life and some of the creative thinking that comes with dyslexia.
I recently heard Sir Richard Branson speak at an event. He has dyslexia. I also got to her Gloria Mayfield speak (Harvard Business School Grad and #1 Mary Kay Consultant in the World). She got up on stage and shared LOUD and PROUD that she has dyslexia and that she laughs when someone asks her if she wants a teleprompter for her speeches. Whoopie Goldberg also has dyslexia and we all know what an incredible actor she is (along with her many other talents).
In any case, I am about to embark on a journey to learning more about dyslexia, understanding my daughters amazing strengths, and helping her to get the appropriate learning accommodations at school. I feel like I have launched into “super-mamma bear” mode. Don’t mess with me. I am on a MISSION.
I wanted to share this because I know that there are so many adults and children with dyslexia and that there’s a lot of shame around it. The best way to get rid of the shame and secrecy is to shine a LIGHT and to talk about it.
So, I’m going to share our journey with it because our family is not going to have any shame about this. Aliya is a bright and gifted child. We are going to celebrate her strengths and learn about the best ways for HER to learn and share information.
If you are interested in learning more about dyslexia, I HIGHLY recommend the book “The Dyslexia Empowerment Plan“. It dispels a lot of the myths around dyslexia and offers specific ways for building on the strengths of those with dyslexia.
*And if you have dyslexia yourself, it IS available on Audible and if you buy the book on your Kindle, it’s “Text to Speech” enabled which means you can listen to it. Many people with dyslexia prefer “ear reading” over “eye reading” (which is one of the things I’ve learned so far).